See, The Reason Why I Don’t Travel Is…

See, The Reason Why I Don’t Travel Is…

What is holding you back from seeing the world?  It’s not as if the desire isn’t there.  There’s something nagging at you that you can’t quantify; it can only be felt, not seen.  It has no basis in reality.  It just hovers above and paralyzes you to the point where you take no action to achieve those dreams and just brush them aside.

People think that dreams should remain as such.  It should be a lovely flight of fancy where we allow it to invade a small space in our mind and then snuff it out quickly as if the thought never existed.


Looking out at the city of New York from the top of Rockefeller Center

That is the mythology.  We don’t give credence to such fantasies because we consider ourselves unworthy of having good things to come into our lives,  It is never a conscious thought but it is borne out in our actions of self-sabotage.  How do these detrimental acts show themselves in our daily lives?


I had to stop to take a picture of the red rocks and cacti that literally surrounded me on my drive in Sedona

Say you resolve to start saving up for your trip to a place that you fell in love with after seeing it in a travel magazine.  As time and self-doubt crept in, you begin to spend said money on another new outfit to join the rest taking residence in a rarely utilized closet.  We can then rationalize why we can’t do the things we’d like to do like travel.

Sometimes, we are discouraged by others who mean well but are only echoing their own trepidations.  They will question your motives: “What’s wrong with this country?”, “What are you running from?”  “The grass isn’t always greener…”, etc.  Perhaps they aren’t as moved to venture out beyond their own self-imposed prison gates.  So, while many may offer their words of wisdom, it is always best to follow your own heart because no one knows you better than yourself.

No one knows your bliss, no one will understand what compels you, what drives you to seek out other cultures, lands, peoples, sights, sounds and passions more than you do.  You are the final arbiter of what is best for you, so trust your own instincts; trust your gut.


A long view of the Snake River in Jackson Hole, WY where I learned how to fly fish!

One of the greatest gifts that come with freedom is self-determination.  How often do we allow others to eclipse what we truly desire to do, see or speak?  How often do we give others who hold no sway over our lives the power to define it?

travelGoing against the expectations and perceptions of others can be daunting.  But isn’t it better to lose the favor of others in order to gain your sense of autonomy?  What’s the worst that could happen?  Finding out who truly has your best interests at heart?

Or does it go deeper than that?  Are you afraid to venture out to foreign lands because they seem strange to you?  I have to admit that we Americans suffer terribly from Xenophobia; we fear things that we don’t comprehend.  You will be pleased to know that other cultures share the same hopes and dreams as we do.  The only thing that may differ is the way that they live their life may not mirror your own.  travel

I think that’s a good thing.  It’s what makes this world so rich, vibrant and colorful.  It weaves us together like a beautiful patchwork quilt; each of us contributing a piece that is uniquely ours yet held together by a common thread, humanity.  Whatever your stumbling block (and only you can identify it) remember that it will only cause a lack in your life, it won’t contribute anything meaningful to it.  It will cause you to miss out on so many opportunities to become a fully contributing citizen of the world.


Looking out onto the Mississippi River from the Creole Queen Riverboat in New Orleans, Louisiana

Whatever objection that you can come up with to justify your not getting on a plane or sitting behind your steering wheel to venture out into the world, can be overcome.  I have always believed that people can and will always do what they truly want to.  The only thing that prevents them from achieving it is themselves.  What else are you allowing to hold you back?  When you give yourself permission to live life on your own terms?



Renee King
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  • Cathy Sweeney
    Posted at 22:57h, 05 February Reply

    Very thoughtful post and one that I think will be helpful to many. Personally, I’ve always loved to travel, but I know others who feel differently. You brought up some good points about the reasons for that and offered inspiration. I also love that quote by Pearce.

    • Renee
      Posted at 16:03h, 07 February Reply

      Thanks, Cathy! I appreciate that.

  • inka
    Posted at 09:27h, 06 February Reply

    I hope many of the ditherers read this inspiring post and, finally, take haert.

    • Renee
      Posted at 16:03h, 07 February Reply

      Thanks, Inka….I hope so too. Life is too short not to experience everything it has to offer.

  • Abby
    Posted at 10:00h, 06 February Reply

    I loved this. I’ve been thinking about some of these very issues for an upcoming post in a few weeks. It won’t be as gracefully written as yours is here lol.

    • Renee
      Posted at 10:55h, 07 February Reply

      Awww…Abby, I love your writing….can’t wait to read it!

  • jade
    Posted at 18:35h, 06 February Reply

    Since I have always loved the travel, I simply can’t understand those that don’t. I think the excuse or saying “what are you running away from” is misplaced and strange for people to ask. Why wouldn’t you want to explore the world?

    • Renee
      Posted at 10:54h, 07 February Reply

      My sentiments, exactly! That is such a foreign concept to me!

  • Rich
    Posted at 20:20h, 06 February Reply

    This reminds me of a poem I came across by Harun Yahya:
    “I always wonder why birds stay
    in the same place.
    When they can fly
    anywhere on the Earth.
    Than I ask myself
    the same question.”

    The first step is always the hardest…

    • Renee
      Posted at 10:09h, 07 February Reply

      Love it….I agree…the first step in any process is the most difficult. While it would be nice to be able to push someone into doing something that you know is wonderful…they have to take the initiative. What’s that saying? The longest journey begins with that first step.

  • Scott - Quirky Travel Guy
    Posted at 12:51h, 07 February Reply

    A lot of people I talk to don’t travel because it’s too expensive. I guess they need to learn more about the budget travel opportunities out there!

    • Renee
      Posted at 15:52h, 07 February Reply

      Definitely, Scott….where there’s a will, there’s a way!

  • Nomadic Samuel
    Posted at 22:25h, 09 February Reply

    Renee, this is a very inspiring post. The rewards of travel far outweigh any potential excuses. If one wants to travel there is always as way 🙂

  • Marcia Clarke
    Posted at 15:27h, 10 February Reply

    Very well said, and I agree with Nomadic Sam; many times it is the expense of travel that keeps people grounded. To that I say–travel within miles from home, you’ll be surprised to see how much is available.

  • Nicholle Olores
    Posted at 21:36h, 12 February Reply

    I agree. It is good to travel a place where you want to go but it is very expensive and costly.

    • Renee
      Posted at 13:57h, 25 February Reply

      Travel isn’t as expensive as you may think. It really is about priorities and planning ahead. I like to plan at least 6-12 months in advance so that I can save, find deals….anything that you truly WANT to do….you can…it simply depends on you.

  • Madeline Briant
    Posted at 08:58h, 13 February Reply

    I think that “fear” is that one thing that makes people not follow their dreams, whatever they may be! It’s wonderful to travel, but we’ve gotten used to always have money and stay in nice places (resorts, hotels) and we’ve forgotten that to travel you actually don’t need that much money, just a lot of courage and passion!

    • Renee
      Posted at 13:29h, 25 February Reply

      Amen, Madeline….I’ve thought that fear was the most useless emotion. It causes you to miss out on so many things and life and adds absolutely nothing to it. I agree…where there is a will to travel, there is a way!

  • Andi of My Beautiful Adventures
    Posted at 09:43h, 14 February Reply

    This was such an inspirational post, I LOVED it! There is no excuse not to travel.

    • Renee
      Posted at 12:52h, 25 February Reply

      Agreed….we just have to keep getting the word out!

  • Amanda
    Posted at 03:49h, 15 February Reply

    Oh I love this very inspiring!

    • Renee
      Posted at 12:51h, 25 February Reply

      Thanks, Amanda…that means a lot to me!

  • Kara
    Posted at 04:59h, 21 February Reply

    Loved this post! So many of my friends tell me ridiculous reasons why they can’t travel and hate me for choosing to do so. Anybody can travel, you just need to make it your priority.

    • Renee
      Posted at 12:51h, 25 February Reply

      Thanks, Kara….it’s so frustrating to hear friends and love ones with their excuses….if they only knew…right?

  • Gray
    Posted at 19:50h, 22 February Reply

    Ah, so do you think people are afraid reality won’t live up to their dreams of travel, and so they don’t go so they can hold onto the ideal image?

    • Renee
      Posted at 12:39h, 25 February Reply

      You know, I think that is a real possibility, Gray! I have to admit that I have been disappointed a time or two while traveling, but that taught me to stop having pre-conceived notions and simply go with the flow. Being open is the best way to experience anything and I hope more will begin to realize that.

  • roni faida
    Posted at 12:29h, 25 February Reply

    Hey! I just found your blog, thanks for your post. I especially liked it cause you used the name of my blog in your post! (flights of fancy). I’ll be reading from now on, keep up the good work!!

    • Renee
      Posted at 12:37h, 25 February Reply

      Hi Roni,

      Glad you found me! BTW, I love your blog name too!

  • Blogger of the Month - February
    Posted at 08:37h, 27 April Reply

    […] A View to a Thrill tackled one of the big issues for travel bloggers – what is the point of travelling? Renee explains why you should let go of your fears and see more of the world – 'You will be pleased to know that other cultures share the same hopes and dreams as we do.  The only thing that may differ is the way that they live their life may not mirror your own. ' She certainly makes a case for taking that leap and exploring. […]

  • Amy
    Posted at 21:52h, 30 April Reply

    I have always loved to travel and find it so interesting hearing people make excuses not to. Usually they say at the end of a conversation that they are just afraid of the unknown, understandable

  • BJ
    Posted at 20:18h, 04 August Reply

    This is a magical post, Renee.

    I’d just finished writing a comment elsewhere about how traveling is something I desperately want to do, however, I remain realistic about how money and obligations will likely hold me back from going to even half of the places I long to visit.

    Then I read this post and it was honestly as if you were speaking directly to me. You’ve listed so many of the ‘excuses’ and phrases I’ve used to put of seeing the world. I visit travel blogs more than I read the news because I obviously have a passion to travel. Perhaps coming across your words and seeing how yourself and your daughter embrace life was meant to be. Perhaps these posts are the inspiration from a real life person I needed!

    Thank you for all of your work, Renee.


  • Bell - wanderlust marriage
    Posted at 09:59h, 18 May Reply

    Beautifully written post! Even as an avid traveller, I and my husband sometimes doubt our abilities to pull off a trip, we always go, but it’s terrible that little voice that questions… The world is truly an amazing place and couldn’t agree more that people are people and love the pic with the guy with the sign we are all foreigners somewhere, too true!

  • Jackie Smith
    Posted at 11:28h, 18 May Reply

    Great piece of writing.You’ve captured the excuses well.

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