Most people recognize the term fear of failure, where some one might be reticent to attempt a task because somewhere deep down inside they fear that they might fail. Rather than venture into a hopeless situation, they will rationalize that the smart thing to do is to not bother at all. Nothing ventured, nothing gained; but no chance of failure either. Then, there’s another dynamic where some people fear what success may bring to them. It sounds counter intuitive; don’t we all want to succeed? Isn’t there always that burning desire to grab the brass ring, to come out on top, to be the best that you can be? First, let’s define what is required to become successful:
- Success requires effort. While looks and luck admittedly can get you some currency in this life, it takes hard work and effort to reach the finish line. At some point, you must produce something tangible and meaningful and bullshit can be seen from a mile away. Nothing that we truly value is won without setting specific goals and trying our best to achieve them.
- Success requires accountability and responsibility. To whom much is given, much is required. No longer will you be able to live along the periphery of life. Others will be looking at you, toward you…for guidance and leadership. If you do not have enough faith in yourself to believe that you have the qualifications or the commitment to follow through on what is expected of you, you will fail. Being accountable isn’t a bad thing. It allows us to grow and become better human beings who consider the well-being of others as well as ourselves. It makes you want to come out from the shadows and step up to the plate so that you can be an example to others seeking to follow a similar path.