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How Mentoring can change the course of someone’s Life

November 30, 2011 • By

There are times in your life when you come to the realization that you didn’t get to where you are by yourself. Somewhere along the way, someone reached out and gave you the impetus to set your feet on stable ground. Whether it was an encouraging word, a piece of advice (solicited or otherwise) or just a couple of dollars to fill your gas tank so that you would be able to make it to work. You can look back in time and pinpoint the exact time and place where your life begin to take shape and which path that you wanted to go.

There was someone who helped me at a time when I was just stuck in limbo. I hadn’t completely given up simply because I still had the desire to want something different. The problem was that I didn’t know what that was which made it impossible for me to go about getting it. The person who helped me was one of my brothers. He made me realize that I had to do more than just complain about my circumstances, I had to change them. I believe in some way, I thought the answers would come to me, not realizing that I had to go to it.

I think that is how we waste so much of our time on this earth thinking that mountains will be moved so that we can get closer to our dreams and goals. That is fantasy. The truth is that mountains only move when there is an avalanche. Instead, we should aspire to climb those mountains, to grab onto each jagged edge because each one that you hurdle gets you closer to the summit; closer to your goals. However, a lack of knowledge often leads to inaction.READ MORE


Facing The Fear Of Success Head On

May 23, 2011 • By

“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.” – Robert Collier

Most people recognize the term fear of failure, where some one might be reticent to attempt a task because somewhere deep down inside they fear that they might fail.  Rather than venture into a hopeless situation, they will rationalize that the smart thing to do is to not bother at all.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained; but no chance of failure either.  Then, there’s another dynamic where some people fear what success may bring to them.  It sounds counter intuitive; don’t we all want to succeed?  Isn’t there always that burning desire to grab the brass ring, to come out on top, to be the best that you can be?  First,  let’s define what is required to become successful:

  • Success requires effort.  While looks and luck admittedly can get you some currency in this life, it takes hard work and effort to reach the finish line.  At some point, you must produce something tangible and meaningful and bullshit can be seen from a mile away.  Nothing that we truly value is won without setting specific goals and trying our best to achieve them.
  • Success requires accountability and responsibility.  To whom much is given, much is required.  No longer will you be able to live along the periphery of life.  Others will be looking at you, toward you…for guidance and leadership.  If you do not have enough faith in yourself to believe that you have the qualifications or the commitment to follow through on what is expected of you, you will fail.  Being accountable isn’t a bad thing.  It allows us to grow and become better human beings who consider the well-being of others as well as ourselves.  It makes you want to come out from the shadows and step up to the plate so that you can be an example to others seeking to follow a similar path.



Never Put Off Tomorrow What You Can Do Today – Traveling On Your Own Terms

February 20, 2011 • By

Recently, I was asked to write a guest post at Baby Boomers Traveling by another travel friend, Doris Gallan.   I soon realized that it was actually a continuation of a post that I wrote last month, “How to get out of your own way and live the life you want“.  With Doris’ permission, I am posting it here.  I hope that it inspires someone to reach out and grab life with gusto:

I was raised in a household of ten kids with two parents and as you can imagine, freedom of movement was a scarce commodity. I think that is where my first yearning for wide open spaces came from. It’s difficult to live life feeling confined, so I suppose that gave rise to my desire to be unencumbered; unrestricted. I had always been interested in geography because I learned so much about places so far removed from the reality of my life. It was like a pleasant dream to politely acknowledge, but I never believed that it would or could possibly come true.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to visit Paris – the venerable city of lights. Like so many would-be nomads, I allowed the dream to sit unfettered in the deep recesses of my mind. I never allowed myself to believe that it could become a reality for me. It was safer to let the years drift by; to craft excuse after excuse as to why it was OK to not do a single thing that would get me closer to that elusive goal. Until one day, I had a ridiculously simple epiphany: “Just Do It”. Nothing was going to happen until I made it so. No travel agent was going to come knocking to see what my plans were. I believe so many of us are sitting, waiting for supernatural signs to tap us on our collective shoulders. It will not happen that way. As with anything worth having, you have to work for it, to plan for it….that is truly the only way it will come to pass. It’s about taking a leap of faith, of believing that you have as much right as anyone else to live dreams previously unfulfilled.


That is my main purpose in starting my travel blog, A View To A Thrill. It is a call to action to anyone who has the desire, but perhaps, not the knowledge to explore this vast world that we live in. It is an appeal to believe in the possibilities; to believe in your own ability to navigate through this life on your own terms. Rest assured, there will always be naysayers; those that can think of every reason on earth as to why you’ve left your senses. You will be surprised to see that their protests are usually deeply rooted in their own self-doubts. And yes, there are those who will think that you see yourself as high and mighty simply because you want to expose yourself to different cultures, different experiences, different….anything. It goes against their predictable and limited expectations and some would even ask what are you running from?

When I travel, I never put restrictions on myself. If there is something that I want to do, I do it anyway…even if some folks thinks it’s for other people. If I want to go to a country music concert, I’ll go. You’d be surprised how many people (black and white) would find it odd that I enjoy country music. Never let others define you and tell you what you should be doing, do what pleases you. I think older people are probably most guilty about towing the party-line. Sometimes, you have to risk being judged or even mocked. If you have unconventional tastes, own it! You only go around once, live it to the fullest! I’ve always said, unless you pay my mortgage, utilities and buy my groceries, you don’t get a say in how I live my life. Conformity takes the color out of rainbows, harmony out of a song and the joy out of living.


My goal is to reach out to those who want to travel on a budget without sacrificing comfort and also to provide guidance to those who want to travel, but never have. To that end, my blog focuses on the reality that most people are living paycheck to paycheck. In these economic times, it is even more important to share ways of traveling on a budget. It’s about making adjustments, even sacrifices to your current lifestyle. There are lots of tricks to save money without even trying to or learning how to deny yourself when you see that pair of jeans that cost more than a fancy winter coat. It’s not going to be a piece of cake, but the reward will be worth it. Just as important, is the person who wants to travel, but has no idea of how to get started. My desire is to share some of the things that I wish others had told me about when I was just starting out.

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