31 Jul There Is Nothing To Fear, But Fear Itself
I have a friend who really wants to travel internationally, but she can’t bring herself to do it. She told me that she is afraid to travel across a body of water and the long plane trip won’t be a picnic either. I can sympathize that both issues can be disconcerting, but it should not be a deal breaker. Traveling, while it is fun and wonderful, can be challenging. It will be a challenge for my friend, but I know her deep desire to conquer that fear is why she reads my blog for encouragement.
The most difficult thing about meeting a challenge is taking the first step. She’s done that, so she’s ahead of the game. She’s flown domestically which would always be my first suggestion to conquer that fear. Take baby steps all the while realizing that this will probably be one of the hardest things in your life that you will do and then resolve that you will do it. It will take equal parts bravery and planning but it can be done. We are all faced with things that are uncomfortable…… hell……. unfathomable to conceive of doing. However, we must remind ourselves that in order for great things to happen to us, we have to be willing to receive it…to allow it to happen. Resistance is the antithesis to receiving it. Stop pushing away things that could potentially change your life for the better.
There’s a saying, “The heart wants what the heart wants”. It’s a bit anticlimactic if action isn’t put behind that sentiment. You can want anything, but unless and until you put forth the effort it won’t happen. You must learn to reign in any fears or trepidations that keep you from making it to the finish line. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. One of my greatest regrets was waiting so long to travel myself. If I had been thinking clearly, I would have taken off my freshman year of college to see the world.
But familial expectations, personal cowardice and the fact that I was thoroughly convinced that I couldn’t afford it is what took me on a journey that lasted over twenty years. Twenty years that could have been spent exploring this magnificent orb that we call earth. I believe everything happens for a reason, though. It took me this long so that I could exist here right now to convince YOU not to.
Let me be your test case because I really wish that I had someone to shake me out of my stupor and tell me that I’m not immortal. Life is precious and painfully short. To spend one more day avoiding the thing that you find compelling is counter-intuitive. It’s living in massive denial that we are all frail human beings with an expiration date that comes all too soon. The best way to get ahead of the panic that fear instills is to move forward acknowledging that the fear is real and it’s there but you are going through anyway. It’s when you pause that you let the fear rise and consume you. Fear is just an emotion; the only power that it possesses is the power that we give it.
Resolve today that you are the master of your own destiny. Do not allow irrationality to steal your joy. There are literally hundreds of flights that depart to various destinations without incident….every day….you deserve to be on one of those flights. Now, it’s up to you to believe that.