There Is Nothing To Fear, But Fear Itself

 This is the last day of the Ultimate Blog Challenge. Yay!!! I made it! I thought it would be a good idea to end my journey with a travel related article. It’s about a dear friend of mine who shall remain nameless who wants to travel but is afraid to. There are so many things that you want to say to encourage….but I didn’t want to think too much about it. I will just speak from the heart and hope that she hears it.

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I have a friend who really wants to travel internationally, but she can’t bring herself to do it. She told me that she is afraid to travel across a body of water and the long plane trip won’t be a picnic either. I can sympathize that both issues can be disconcerting, but it should not be a deal breaker. Traveling, while it is fun and wonderful, can be challenging. It will be a challenge for my friend, but I know her deep desire to conquer that fear is why she reads my blog for encouragement.

The most difficult thing about meeting a challenge is taking the first step. She’s done that, so she’s ahead of the game. She’s flown domestically which would always be my first suggestion to conquer that fear. Take baby steps all the while realizing that this will probably be one of the hardest things in your life that you will do and then resolve that you will do it. It will take equal parts bravery and planning but it can be done. We are all faced with things that are uncomfortable…… hell……. unfathomable to conceive of doing. However, we must remind ourselves that in order for great things to happen to us, we have to be willing to receive it…to allow it to happen. Resistance is the antithesis to receiving it. Stop pushing away things that could potentially change your life for the better.

There’s a saying, “The heart wants what the heart wants”. It’s a bit anticlimactic if action isn’t put behind that sentiment. You can want anything, but unless and until you put forth the effort it won’t happen. You must learn to reign in any fears or trepidations that keep you from making it to the finish line. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. One of my greatest regrets was waiting so long to travel myself. If I had been thinking clearly, I would have taken off my freshman year of college to see the world.

But familial expectations, personal cowardice and the fact that I was thoroughly convinced that I couldn’t afford it is what took me on a journey that lasted over twenty years. Twenty years that could have been spent exploring this magnificent orb that we call earth. I believe everything happens for a reason, though. It took me this long so that I could exist here right now to convince YOU not to.

Let me be your test case because I really wish that I had someone to shake me out of my stupor and tell me that I’m not immortal. Life is precious and painfully short. To spend one more day avoiding the thing that you find compelling is counter-intuitive. It’s living in massive denial that we are all frail human beings with an expiration date that comes all too soon. The best way to get ahead of the panic that fear instills is to move forward acknowledging that the fear is real and it’s there but you are going through anyway. It’s when you pause that you let the fear rise and consume you. Fear is just an emotion; the only power that it possesses is the power that we give it.

Resolve today that you are the master of your own destiny. Do not allow irrationality to steal your joy. There are literally hundreds of flights that depart to various destinations without incident….every day….you deserve to be on one of those flights. Now, it’s up to you to believe that.

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Renee King
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  • Cheri
    Posted at 20:18h, 31 July Reply

    If it’s any help at all to your friend to know that she’s not alone, I will raise my hand. I am a very poor flyer. Some of it is a true physical reaction that my stomach just doesn’t like to cooperate, but most of it is a mental thing: I am simply terrified. And the longer the flight, the more opportunity for fear. But . . . I love to go places. While I’ve only had a few international trips, they are trips I wouldn’t trade for anything. My tricks are pretty simple: load up on the dramamine, spend take off and landing focused on the wonderful parts of the vacation, and the rest of the flight with my ipod and/or sleeping. Oh, and don’t look out the window. Following this plan, I’m confident I could make it anywhere in the world–and someday I might! Good luck to your friend.
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    • Renee
      Posted at 14:44h, 06 August Reply

      So, true, Cheri…it really is all mental….but man it can hold you in a vise if you let it!! Thanks!

  • Nicholle Olores
    Posted at 19:15h, 01 August Reply

    Hi Renee,
    Nice words here. I used to have fears of traveling from place to place via boat or anything that will cross a water. It’s one thing that I hate about myself. One time, I have decided to take just one step to overcome this fear but it wasn’t successful at first, then I asked my closest friend to come with me in a boat ride. It was really scary at first but it was fun.
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    • Renee
      Posted at 14:43h, 06 August Reply

      That was smart Nicholle…if it takes a little hand holding at first…why not? At least you did it!!

  • Scott - Quirky Travel Guy
    Posted at 22:52h, 02 August Reply

    I agree that baby steps are the way to go. Try visiting Canada or Mexico, and then go from there. You never want to let fear win out in the end.
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    • Renee
      Posted at 14:43h, 06 August Reply

      Absolutely, Scott….no truer words…

  • Per-Erik Olsen
    Posted at 14:25h, 06 August Reply

    Renee, I just found this blog and you are writing about the thing i Love: Travel. And your inspirational posts are awesome too. I’ll be back for sure. Thanks!

    • Renee
      Posted at 14:42h, 06 August Reply

      Glad that you found me, Per-Erik! Welcome!

  • John Ryan Roxas
    Posted at 04:13h, 11 August Reply

    Awesome article! I can really relate to this since I am in a company that don’t allow long vacation leaves. I always wanted to travel to other places such as Europe and Africa however it requires, of course, more than two weeks to enjoy your itineraries. Truly, to travel is a blessing because not all are given the chance to navigate to another place. And I’m happy that I’ve read your article. I promised myself that sooner or later, I will be having my dream trip and I think it’s amazing to share it to everyone including my boss and workmates.

  • Lee
    Posted at 05:28h, 09 April Reply

    Hi renee
    I think everyone gets a bit nervous when travelling flying especially. I know numourous ps,e who really would prefer to travel any other way but fly. I have one friend who would also love to travel and domestically will go anywhere you ask him to get in a plane though and there is no chance at all. He said he flew on holiday once and spent the whole holiday worrying about flying back and so did not enjoy any of the holiday at all. Hopefully your friend will get over her fear and succeed with the travelling she so much desires. Things always seem scary and then when you do something you wonder what the anxiety was about.

    Loved the post lee

  • Marilyn
    Posted at 00:16h, 29 September Reply

    Like many people, I also hope to travel around the world. It’s not a matter of fear, only the financial issues. Anyway, your post inspired me to work harder to reach my goals so that one day I can make my dream true! Thanks.

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