What is holding you back from seeing the world? It’s not as if the desire isn’t there. There’s something nagging at you that you can’t quantify; it can only be felt, not seen. It has no basis in reality. It just hovers above and paralyzes you to the point where you take no action to achieve those dreams and just brush them aside.
People think that dreams should remain as such. It should be a lovely flight of fancy where we allow it to invade a small space in our mind and then snuff it out quickly as if the thought never existed.
That is the mythology. We don’t give credence to such fantasies because we consider ourselves unworthy of having good things to come into our lives, It is never a conscious thought but it is borne out in our actions of self sabotage. How do these detrimental acts show themselves in our daily lives?
Say you resolve to start saving up for your trip to a place that you fell in love with after seeing it in a travel magazine. As time and self doubt crept in, you begin to spend said money on another new outfit to join the rest taking residence in a rarely utilized closet. We can then rationalize why we can’t do the things we’d like to do like travel.
Sometimes, we are discouraged by others who mean well, but are only echoing their own trepidations. They will question your motives: “What’s wrong with this country?”, “What are you running from?” “The grass isn’t always greener…”, etc. Perhaps they aren’t as moved to venture out beyond their own self imposed prison gates. So, while many may offer their words of wisdom, it is always best to follow your own heart because no one knows you better than yourself.
No one knows your bliss, no one will understand what compels you, what drives you to seek out other cultures, lands, peoples, sights, sounds and passions more than you do. You are the final arbiter of what is best for you, so trust your own instincts; trust your gut.
One of the greatest gifts that comes with freedom is self determination. How often do we allow others to eclipse what we truly desire to do, see or speak? How often do we give others who hold no sway over our lives the power to define it?
Going against the expectations and perceptions of others can be daunting. But isn’t it better to lose the favor of others in order to gain your sense of autonomy? What’s the worst that could happen? Finding out who truly has your best interests at heart?
Or does it go deeper than that? Are you afraid to venture out to foreign lands because they seem strange to you? I have to admit that we Americans suffer terribly from Xenophobia; we fear things that we don’t comprehend. You will be pleased to know that other cultures share the same hopes and dreams as we do. The only thing that may differ is the way that they live their life may not mirror your own.
I think that’s a good thing. It’s what makes this world so rich, vibrant and colorful. It weaves us together like a beautiful patchwork quilt; each of us contributing a piece that is uniquely ours yet held together by a common thread, humanity. Whatever your stumbling block (and only you can identify it) remember that it will only cause a lack in your life, it won’t contribute anything meaningful to it. It will cause you to miss out on so many opportunities to become a fully contributing citizen of the world.
Whatever objection that you can come up with to justify your not getting on a plane or sitting behind your steering wheel to venture out into the world, can be overcome. I have always believed that people can and will always do what they truly want to. The only thing that prevents them from achieving it is themselves. What else are you allowing to hold you back? When you give yourself permission to live life on your own terms?